New Year's Resolutions – Will You Make Changes on the Way You Handle Your Dating and Relationships?

Do you have any New Year's resolutions for your dating and relationships? If yes, what are they? What changes will you work on when it comes to that aspect of your life?

I've never put much value on New Year's resolutions. I've never even made a list in my life. Why wait for the New Year to get started on whatever life changes you plan on making when you can make these changes today? But I guess for a lot of people, New Year's Day is a chance for them to think things through – to reflect on how the old year has been to them and what they should look forward to when the new year comes.

So I suppose it won't hurt to write that list down.

New Year's Resolutions Tend to Be Forgotten

The thing with New Year's resolutions, though, is that after they've been written down, we tend to forget about them. Or we may go through the motions of implementing the changes we want, but then again we get bored or sick of them so we fall back on our old habits.

Let's say you've made the resolution to find more opportunities to date this 2011. For the whole month of January, you go out for drinks every Friday and Saturday night in the hopes of hitting it off with someone. February rolls by and you still haven't found someone to be with. By the time March comes along, you would have given up and told yourself that there's really no one out there for you.

New Year's resolutions – or making life changes, for that matter – don't work that way. When we decide to change something in our lives for the better, we stick to our guns and charge until the change has happened.

Make the Change

If you have made New Year's resolutions for your dating and relationships – or for your life in general – this 2011, attack those resolutions with persistence until those resolutions become truly a part of you. It would help a lot if you:

1. Keep your list somewhere where you get to see them first thing in the morning and for most of the day. Maybe you can print out your list and put it in a picture frame that you can place on your bedside table and on your desk at the office.

2. Mull over your list for five minutes every single day. This will keep your resolutions from going out of sight, out of mind. The best time to do this is right after waking up.

3. Break down your resolutions into smaller, doable goals. For example, if your resolution is to establish a deeper level of intimacy with your partner, you can start with things like spending 15 minutes having coffee with your partner every morning before heading off for work and scheduling date nights every week.

If you have New Year's resolutions for your dating and relationships or for your life in general, don't just write them down and forget about them. Work on them so you will be able to live out the life-changing experience that you want to happen this 2011.

How do you plan to carry out your New Year's resolutions this 2011?