Holiday Dating – What to Do If Your Date Doesn't Want You to Meet the Family Yet

In the previous post, I talked about being in a new relationship during the holidays and how to survive that first meeting with your new squeeze's friends and family. Basically, I emphasized the value of being prepared for the meeting, creating a good first impression, and interacting with your date's people. I also said that even though it would be great for your date's folks to like you, you shouldn't worry about pleasing everyone at this point because it's just not always possible.

Of course, we are assuming here that your new flame will invite you to meet the folks in the first place. But what if he/she doesn't even bring up the idea with you? Should you freak out if you learn that your date has no intention of introducing you to the family during the holidays?


Your Date Just Isn't Ready Yet

The answer to that question is a definite "no." If your date isn't inclined to take you home to meet the family during the holidays, you should just let it slide instead of pushing the issue. If you push the issue, it will only result in a quarrel.

Your date's reluctance to take you home to meet the family is understandable if the two of you have been together for only a few weeks. This reluctance can only mean two things – either your date does not feel that deeply committed to your relationship yet or your date has issues with his/her family that he/she isn't ready to reveal to you at the moment.

Taking a girlfriend or boyfriend to meet the family is a huge step commitment-wise for a lot of people. You can't really expect your current flame to show that level of commitment when your relationship is still very new.

On the other hand, it could be that your date does want you to meet the folks back home. The reason why your date isn't doing so is he/she could be having some issues with his/her family that he/she is looking to resolve before you meet them.

Don't Push the Issue

Whatever your date's reason is for not taking you to meet the family during the holidays, you really should just back off if he/she isn't so inclined. Don't try to put undue pressure on your date; it will only create a strain in your relationship and may lead to a big argument or even a breakup later on.

Just let the issue slide. Instead, offer to spend some quality time together after the two of you have returned from visiting family for the holidays. Perhaps you can suggest a short romantic getaway with just the two of you.

Don't freak out if it seems that your current squeeze isn't inclined to take you to meet the family during the holidays. Your date will introduce you when he/she is ready, so just hang on tight and go with the flow. If it really bugs you, go ahead and ask why. Your date will tell you the truth if he/she really cares for you.

What is the first thing that comes to mind when you find that your date isn't inclined to have you meet his/her folks?

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