Breaking Up During the Holidays – Yes or No?

If you aren't happy in your relationship but the Yuletide holidays are just around the corner, would you wait for New Year's Day to come along before you break up? Or would you rather get the deed done and over with regardless of what season of the year it is?

This question never occurred to me before until I read this blog post on LuvemorLeavem. Basically, according to this post, November is a good month to break up because the next few weeks will offer other – and probably better – opportunities for dating. Also, it's really awkward to flirt with other people at parties when you have your soon-to-be ex tagging along with you.

So, breaking up before or during the holidays – should you or shouldn't you?

Choosing to Wait for New Year's Day

Some people would rather not break up with their significant others when the holiday season is about to go full swing. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Breaking up is depressing whether it is the right decision or not. Can you imagine going through the motions of celebrating the holidays when you have just walked out on your relationship?

2. Attending parties of mutual friends will be awkward. If you and your ex both show up at the party, there will be tension in the atmosphere and your host will have to treat you both like walking time bombs.

3. It's going to be a pain to explain to other people why your ex isn't with you when you go to this or that event. To say you just broke up may earn you a few gestures of sympathy you'd rather do without.

4. It's the season of goodwill. Do you really want to be seen as a heartless person who broke up with her significant other during the holidays?

But Then Again

If you're really miserable in the relationship and you feel that the relationship isn't going to work for the long haul, why wait for New Year's Day? Waiting for New Year's Day is just a matter of suspending the inevitable and prolonging the misery. Better use the holiday season as an excuse to part amiably instead.

It doesn't matter whether it's the holidays or not. What's more important is that you stay true to yourself and your feelings. You shouldn't worry about what other people will think or say. You'll be the focus of their attention for like ten seconds then forget all about you.

If you want to break up, then break up. It's going to hurt, sure, but the holidays are also about being with friends and family. Surround yourself with their love and support and you'll be okay.

What do you think of breaking up during the holidays?

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