Can't Find a Date? Be Nice, Seriously

How many times have you ignored, glared, or even snarled at a guy simply because he tried to start a conversation with you?

I used to do that all the time, when I was still a lot younger and much more socially awkward. But the thing about people is that they tend to see what they want to see and are not always willing to look beyond what is right in front of them.

So, to these people, I am not this socially awkward person who doesn't really know yet how to act around them. To them, I am a snob, an ice queen, if not a total bitch.

Being socially awkward is not an illness or a crime. But it can stop you from successfully meeting someone to date or have a relationship with. If you want to meet people with an eye towards dating and building relationships, you have to learn how to flirt a little. Or at least try to be nice and friendly.

Friendly Girls Get More Dates

According to this Fox News article, a recent study on flirting shows that friendly girls find more dating success than polite and reserved ones. For these friendly girls, flirting is just harmless fun and a way of showing their potential dates and mates that they are women who are self-aware and confident of themselves. The figures and findings of the study may sound like a no-brainer, but it is indeed concrete evidence that shy girls do lose out in the dating scene.

Consider this: Why do flowers have nectar? That is because this sweet and sugary liquid is meant to attract insects that will help the flower pollinate and reproduce. Without the nectar, flowers are nothing more than pretty ornaments. They are nice to look at but have no drawing power.

Being a Wallflower Is Not a Permanent Condition

As I said above, being shy or socially awkward is not an illness or a crime. But it's not something you can't overcome either. You don't have to do a complete turnaround and transform yourself into a fun and flirty person just to attract a date or potential partner. However, you can at least try to be nice when interacting with other people.

Smiling and making eye contact is one good way to start overcoming your social awkwardness. When someone approaches you to start a conversation, you can keep the conversation going by responding in more than just yeses and nos. You don't have to fake being an outgoing person. Just be a tad friendly and be responsive.

If you want to meet people with an eye towards dating and building relationships, you have to at least try to be nice and friendly. Being nice and friendly is not just something that will see you through in dating. In any situation that requires human interaction, being nice and friendly will make you a winner.

What did you do to overcome your social awkwardness?

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