Dating and Thanksgiving – Finding Something to be Thankful For

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?

When you are stuck in a relationship rut – either as a single person or as someone forced by the holidays into a relationship that you know will be on its way to nowhere – it is sometimes not that easy to find something to be thankful for when it comes to your love-life. Add to that the fact that the holiday season is notorious for finding a way of putting you face-to-face with what you lack in your life, if not rubbing it right in.

But for all that the holidays have the tendency to make you dwell on things you don't have, fixating on them just because it's Thanksgiving and it's the start of the holiday season is pointless, a total waste of time.

So what if your baby sister is being lovey-dovey with her current boyfriend during Thanksgiving dinner while the others at the table won't stop making remarks about your being there on your lonesome?

So what if your annoying aunt is making everyone at the table laugh at your expense just because you seem to be headed towards old-maid status?

Letting these people make you feel bad just because you are single (or might as well be single) during the holidays is only going to spoil what should be a fun and joyous season for you. Just ignore them and don't let their insensitive jokes get to you.

Or you could turn the tables on them and show that you are having such a sweet time being single and on your own. Make them imagine how fun it is being able to date without being tied down and without anyone being jealous. Make them see how fulfilling it is to pursue your personal interests without being held back just because you are in a relationship.

You can also use the occasion to hook up with someone new. Did your sister-in-law invite a cute cousin who is also single to dinner? Did your brother bring along a friend from work?

The holidays, Thanksgiving in particular, may be a bane for single people. But that doesn't mean that if you are single, you have to feel bad or bitter about the jokes and the other stuff that family, colleagues or even friends throw your way because of your single state. Being single is not a crime nor is it a reason for you to be lonely and miserable with your life.

There is always something to be thankful for even when it is not Thanksgiving. Maybe one of those things you can be thankful for is that you dumped that ex who isn't giving you the value you deserve. You just need to look into your heart and find out.

And when you find something you can be truly thankful for, then Thanksgiving won't be such a bane anymore, whether you are single or not.

What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving?

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